Let go and let God
Sometimes you just have to let go, and let God.
I had one of those moments yesterday where I felt a bit overwhelmed, with everything that I was trying to achieve. You may not know this but my ‘day job’ is working in B2B sales. Though due to what is happening in the big wide world I’ve been furloughed over the summer.
This period also happened to be the time that my landlady decided that she wanted to sell her asset. Which she is perfectly entitled to do.
So you can imagine the predicament this put me in.My income had massively been affected , (plus my wife was actually made redundant during this time too,) and through no fault of anyone’s we’re now needing to re-home our family of 6. My wife and I, and our 4 children.
Suffice to say I don’t have all the answers. But that’s ok. I’m applying my own principles to my own world, and I’m working through it.
We’re all a work in progress after all, and every day is a new opportunity to grow.
That’s how it works.
This time yesterday though, I started to feel it all mount up a little if I’m being completely open. (And I think it’s important to share this real world stuff, as I know I’m not alone in these thoughts and it may be relevant to you right now too.)
As I write this I still don’t know if I’m back to work in August? So as a father and a husband I’m busy thinking about my next move. Should I get my CV polished and apply for other jobs?
Will that be a mistake if my current role is fine, and I jump too soon out of panic?Should I start my own business?Could I monetise my coaching material?
Should I try and get into coaching full-time? I’m clearly enjoying my blog/ writing and podcast?
And how does it work right now with housing support and benefits, if I don’t solve the situation in time?Could we actually end up homeless? Surely that would never happen right? But could it?
And each time I start to ponder the questions I’m interrupted again by one of the 4 children. They’re bored, they need help with something, they need feeding and watering, and oh no?! When did that get spilled everywhere?!
You get the idea.As the challenges mount up it’s very easy to feel a bit stuck.Like there’s a LOT to do, but minimal resource available to focus on it. That’s what was going through my mind at least.
How am I supposed to solve this one?And then the universe answered my call.Yesterday afternoon I had a 1-2-1 with a great guy called Marc, who is part of a mastermind group I’m in. We’d planned to catch up a few times before, and this time we finally we did.
It was a great conversation.Marc is a professional coach and we chatted together about how we first got into personal development, our backgrounds, and what we were working on right now. So I shared a bit of my current situation as I have here.
He was so calm about the whole thing, and said he totally understood. He’d been in a similar state of mind not all that long ago himself.
As silly as it sounds it’s always a relief to know that any problem your tackling isn’t new. Knowing that people overcome challenges like this every day.Then he said, “do you mind if I share a suggestion?”
Always open I was more than happy to listen.He then explained something I already knew. But clearly needed to be reminded of at that very point in time.
When we feel stress we start to interrogate our conscious mind for answers to our problems. We scrabble to find the most appropriate solution. An idea that we can run with, and start acting on RIGHT NOW!We’ve all done it.
The problem however, is that this process blocks our creative mind. The very mind that has the ability to step in and help us out by uncovering those answers.
For example, have you ever turned the house over looking for something. Then went out for a walk later after letting go of finding it, only for you to suddenly remember where you last saw it? Then you head home and it’s in that exact place?
No doubt you’ve experienced solving challenges in this way before too. With the answer suddenly coming to you while you’re busy doing something else.
That’s your creative mind working in the background on your behalf. It has the power to do that anytime you wish for it to do so.
But there is a catch. You have to be relaxed to allow it to happen.The creative mind doesn’t show up when you’re stressed. Or pressing for fast answers. No, you can’t hustle your creativity into delivering when you demand it too – that just puts a road block on the process.
So right there and then I decided to let go of HOW I was going to achieve everything, and get right back to focusing on where I’m going.
Primarily a secure home for the family, which is top of my list right now.Simply be clear on what you’re looking to achieve, and don’t hold on too tightly to HOW you’ll get it. Let your creative mind assist with that one.
In the meantime, put some serious focus on relaxing.In fact, relaxing should be a basic pillar of life anyway. A daily discipline.
Later in the evening I decided on an early night. No better way to prepare for a big day than a good sleep.
Before closing my eyes I decided to open my kindle and get a cheeky chapter in. I’m currently reading through the well-known classic Psychocybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. A staple of most individuals interested in building a performance mindset.
As I opened it up I realised I was now on Chapter Six, which was titled;”Relax and Let Your Success Mechanism Work for You”Coincidence? I don’t think so at all.
When the student is ready – the master appears
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